Sunshine is basically the best thing in the whole world.

I found myself sitting out in the sunshine unexpectedly today.

And this is not the first time I’ve found myself with the thought, “sunshine is basically the best thing in the whole world.”

It has such a life-giving and beautiful glow, and strength, beauty, and grace.

It is the light that shines on our spirits so that the light of our souls may shine through.

And it reminded me of this blessing, that I’d like to share with you.


This Apache blessing always reminds me of a dear friend from college. (You know who you are – wink.)

And if you find yourself with some quiet time today or this weekend, I invite you to find a comfortable spot to sit (even better if it’s outside) and journal about the question…

What beauty do you notice around you right now?

P.S. This is a journal prompt I’m playing with including in a free 7 day journaling experience I’m putting together. If you’d like to join us, stay tuned and I’ll let you know when it’s ready! 🙂

AND, I’m having my first free weekly journaling call tomorrow (Friday) at 3pm PST. If you’d like to make a little quiet time for yourself and be guided through some gentle writing exercises to listen for what your heart has to say, I’d love to have you join us. Just hit reply to this email and I’ll send you the call in info. Hope to see you there. 🙂

Sending much love and many blessings to you always,


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Brave Soul

Walking through fire.

​The quotation in my planner today reads:

“If you’re going through Hell, keep going.”

Winston Churchill

I used to love this quotation.  A lon​​g time ago it made me laugh, it gave me a way to approach my life and the huge challenges with a bit of humor. And it was a way for me to, even if only subtly at first, recognize and acknowledge, and then accept my pain.

You see, the only way to make it to the other side of our pain, is to walk straight through it.

Not to ignore it, deny it — but face it. Head on.

Now this is more difficult to do than it might seem. It sounds simple enough.

But like so many of the simple tasks in life, the simple lessons, the simple actions or habits — they’re often not so easy.

Simple and profound. Easy? Maybe.

Maybe not.

Either way, it is by walking into and through the fire that we find the peace and freedom that getting to the other side of our trial brings.

And I would argue that it isn’t so much about getting to the other side — being in a place without the fire — that brings us peace.

But it’s who we have become by walking through that fire that gives us the peace we crave.

When we get to the other side, it is in knowing that we can do it. That we can face whatever life throws our way.

That no matter what we can always look to the light. And that God and the Angels will be there for us and guiding us along the way.

No matter what.

It’s about facing the things we can’t change. And allowing them to transform us. So that when we make it to the other side, we have freedom.

Not the freedom of peace. Or absence of trial.

But the freedom of fire. The freedom that comes from allowing the fire to burn away anything you don’t need — all the layers of who you thought you were and who you used to be, in order to make room for who you become.

Because who you become, that beautiful golden seed within you now, as it begins to blossom, will only sprinkle out little bits of confetti and love in celebration as you shine.

When you reclaim your voice. When you reclaim your place. All of Heaven smiles.

Just like I am smiling for you now.

So whatever challenges or trials you face today, know that whatever the fire is burning away is only to help reveal the most magnificent being that you already are.

Hold yourself close in the pain. Whisper kind words of compassion to yourself in your suffering.

And know that you are being created, molded, into something far greater than you could ever imagine — the purest essence of you.

And you, my darling, are the most radiant soul in all the earth.

And I’m so proud of you.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep walking through your fire, so that when you reach the other side, you will smile, with peace and satisfaction with how you have emerged — transformed.

You can do this.

You are a brave soul. I’ve got you and I believe in you every step of the way.

Much love to you always,


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The power of writing a letter to yourself.

I sit down and open to a blank page in my journal. Tears stream down my face and I begin to write.

I write everything I can think of, allowing each thought to pass through and make room for the next as I write them down on the page.

At a certain point, the language begins to shift — and I realize it has become a loving letter to myself.

What kind words do you practice saying to yourself? When you’re sad, frustrated, or feeling all alone?

I still remember the blank page with the lovely text Compassionate Whispers written in my own handwriting at the top.

I was part of an art journaling course and during that particular week, we were to try on different compassionate phrases, kind things we could say to ourselves when we were feeling down or inferior in some way. Words that would help build a remembrance of shared humanity, that all human beings face and feel these emotions and so within that, we are not alone.

But I couldn’t think of a single thing to say.

Paralyzed. I left the page blank and just moved on with the rest of the course.

Then, a few years ago, I was thumbing through the journal, and found that blank page. I smiled with compassion for the person I’d been that day — as part of that experience.

And I wrote myself a love note. A letter of compassion. Wrote in all kinds of kind things I could think of to say.

I smiled at how far I’d come, and for the words of others that had helped to guide me along the way.

You see, that week I’d created a different page — one where I’d written different kind things (my favorite things) that friends had family members had written to me in birthday cards, etc. over the years.

And their kind words helped to see me through. They helped give be a life raft, a buoy to hang onto until I could find the kind words that were ready to flow through me towards myself.

The words of others can be a bridge.

Sometimes we we want to be kind to ourselves, but we don’t know the words to say.

When this happens, it helps to have someone else who has walked the road give us an example.

And we can tune in and ask our own hearts — “What do you need to hear from me today?”

And then there are the words from others, the compliments from family members and friends. The people who, at the time, might have a higher opinion of us than we do of ourselves.

And the beautiful thing is, as we practice these things — we develop the muscles for real. So that we can stand in front of ourselves and honor ourselves with the tender love and care that we desire — and so deserve.

And just like any practice, the strength, the ability, expands. So that one day, in the near or distant future, you find yourself saying words you never thought you’d say.

Kind things. To yourself. Without even thinking about it.

I know that is what happened to me.

And it goes it layers. There is no getting it right. No distant land of perfection to reach…

There is only this moment, and the kindness you decide to show yourself for whatever challenges you face…

No matter how you feel, no matter what you think.

You are worthy of the kindness you share.

So often, as sensitive souls, we think about the well-being of others, putting our own needs last. Letting our own desires fall to the wayside under the pressure of what we think others expect from us. And sometimes those expectations are accurate. And sometimes they’re not.

But either way, we always have the chance to make the choice to stand by our own side, and hold our truth with care. To hold our hearts in the palms of our hands and send that love out into the world.

For the love you feel in your heart matters. And tending the flame of your own desires, passion, purpose, and soul is your most important work here in the world.

So what would you say to yourself in a love letter today?​

Whether you play with writing yourself a letter, ponder with a friend, create an art project, hit reply and share your answer with me — whatever you choose, my hope is that you are abundantly blessed with the kindness that resides within your very own heart.

Much love always,


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The sweet little voice inside, and the whispers of your heart.

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I’ve been thinking a lot about the voice inside this week.

And how no one can decide for us.
It’s up to us to listen to the voice within and follow where it leads.

Only you know the language of your heart, and where it’s asking you to go.

Only you know the love it needs you to give, and the strength that wraps you in love.

Only you know your higher Divine Destiny. No one can know it or decide if for you.

It is your path alone.

Others can support and encourage and cheer you on along the way —

But it’s up to you to listen for…
that quiet voice inside.

I just love this poem.

I used to have it hanging on a bulletin board in my apartment several years ago…and it’s amazing the way life gives us opportunities…

circling back to the things we thought we already knew.

Greater depth.
Greater meaning.
Greater love and understanding, and deeper love
of self.

May you be blessed today with infinite grace.
And may that sweet little voice inside whisper to you…

And may you hear her whispers, as she says
how proud she is of you.

I know I am.

Much love to you always,
Caitlin ❤


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Writing as Healing

Always, and forever, and then after that.

Maybe writing is the path. The path through the pain.

So that as words are put onto the page, somehow the skies above — the rain begins to clear. And we can see the light shining down from heaven again, just to know how much we’re loved.

That each one of us must take our own inward journey.

And that those who do not believe in us — we cast away their fears as we write. We let our tears transform into golden raindrops that hold the magical elixir of love straight from the heavens.

Our golden streams of love.

Here for the taking. Here for the receiving — the receiving of all that is good.

And perhaps it takes standing up to our own pain, and those who torment us, to say “enough is enough.”

And quite surprisingly, those we need to rise about, to say “enough is enough….the very ones we need to face…might be those dressed up as heroes from an earlier part of our lives…

The moms, the dads, the sisters the brothers…now all seemingly turned against us, just trying to find a way through their own pain.

Because it was never about us. It was always about them. And about us wanting to help save them.

But every soul must walk a journey of their own. We cannot share our hard won wisdom with those who don’t seek to understand — those who are too lost in the shroud of mystery, too covered in blankets of darkness to be able to see the stars.

So we shine, shine, shine ever onward.

For that is all we can do…

Is to look to our own north star, the brightest one we can find within — and then follow it. And not let any mother, father, sister or brother tell you otherwise.

Not to let them tear you down with their words.

For you were meant for greater than this — you were meant to shine and not be broken…to allow all the broken places to be healed with the light of love.

You are enough, dearest one. And you always have been.

Don’t let anyone tell you different — especially that little voice in your head.

Allow the little girl within you, to be wrapped up in sweet robes of gentleness…caressing her with your light and your grace — with a warm cup of tea and a space to look out the window.

Oh, look, a bunny — there, in the yard.

She connects with me, and the three of us just smile. You are enough, beloved one.

You always have been and you always will be. No exceptions. You are the rule.

And you are the light that shines like the stars in the nights sky.

And it breaks my heart to see you cry — to see your misery in believing any of this is about you.

For you were born for greatness. Your destiny written in the stars.

Keep writing, dear heart. Keep writing, and you’ll find your way within. To a land of distant melodies that make harp music to the sound of your own drum.

For you alone have the heartbeat, that can make the whole world one.

You alone are enough, my child, always and forever and then after that.

Always, and forever. And then after that.

We are with you. I am with you — your own internal song. Listen for me daily, and feel my heartbeat in your song.

Follow the pulse of the Divine and all will be more than fine.

Allow God’s will for your life to flow through you, and you’ll never find yourself alone. You’ll find yourself surrounded by guardians, protectors who love and adore you.

For you are a cherished being of light, a dancing delight to watch expand.

When there is a smile in your heart, there is a smile in ours, you never have to do it alone.

You are so treasured, and adored and I love you.

Forever and then after that.

To the moon and back and then looped around with the stars, in a great big cosmic dance or a wink — blaze your trail, ignite your heart, and all will be right in the end.

Follow your heart, that space there between — go there now, my sweet, my darling, my Queen.

You are beautiful and your gifts are bountiful, there is so much here for you to explore.

Don’t let anyone else get in your way — your love is pure and comes from the heart — let your love out, let it dance and it shine…

For all will see, you’re simply Divine.

And if they don’t, that’s okay — because you’ll always have me.

I’m so proud of you, my darling.


So smile, with your chin up and take care of yourself with care — for there is no one who can care for you better than you.

You’re your own special guardian, why yes, that is true.

There is nothing that can stop you, not even the darkness, or a comet on the wrong flight.

You’re on the right path — keep on going, you’re a delight.

Keep expanding and growing and sharing your joy. And know that I’m proud of you. Always, … and forever, and then after that.


Much love,



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Self-care for gentle souls. {21 simple ways to practice self care.}

Self-care is not all getting a massage, buying flowers, or taking a bubble bath.

It’s what happens in the small moments.

In the moments in and around and between, and therefore infused within the rest of our day.

Especially when something devastating happens and we’re rocked to the core.

It is then that we learn…

It is the smallest things, when done with intention and care, that hold the greatest power.

Here are 21 simple ways you can begin to practice this intentional and mindfulness based self care today:



Your hair, your teeth.

With Gentleness and care.



Connect with water.

Washing away. Cleansing.

Wash your face. Take a shower or bath. Even rinse your hands.

Big or small. Do it with intention.



Wrap yourself in love and support.

Soft blanket. Arm around self. (Lying down, anxiety relief pose, hand on heart.)

Any gesture that say’s to yourself,

“I’ve got you.

I’m here with you.

I’m wrapping you in love and support.”



Place one hand gently on the other arm or shoulder.


Move and touch in another place.

Knees. Thighs. Hands. Feet.

Touch. Feel.

Connect to your own self.



Tea. Lemon water. Green juice.

Hold your cup or mug or container with care.

Feel how it feels against your skin.

Sip with intention.

Drinking in nourishment.

Feeling the liquid in your mouth.



Out the window. Around the room.

Notice the little details of what’s around you. And how they fit into the big picture.



Allow a breath to come in and allow yourself to be breathed.

What is it like to feel this happening for you,

Without pushing or straining,

Without effort

Just flow.

This is grace.



Arms over your head. Or sit up tall. Twist your spine or shimmy it side to side.

Point your toes. Spread your fingers wide.

Big or small, breath with it as you do.

Pay attention to each muscle.

Savor the feel good

Like a cat or dog up from a nap in the sun.



In an armchair. On the couch.

Or stretch out in bed and take a nap.



With nature. With a family member. With a pet. With a friend.



To the birds.

To the hum of the refrigerator.

To the sound of your own breath.

Or even the sound of silence.



Cry. Laugh. Sit and stare.

Feel the sensations in your body.



Something nourishing.

Simple or extravagant, whichever suits your energy, time, and interest.

Prepare each ingredient with care.

Going as slow as you can stand to go.

Feeling your breath and infusing in love to every bite you’ll offer yourself.



For support. To give thanks.

To ask. To listen.

Pour your heart out with no holding back.

Feel the empty space within

Now ready to receive.

Feel the love stream in.

Always within. And throughout.



Even if just the move of a wrist.

A wiggling of your fingers.

A shimmy of your hips.



Out loud or in your mind.

To a song played loud or a solo on your own.

Belt it out strong or hum quietly in close.

Your favorite song. One of comfort. Or only sounds that match how you feel, without a specific song at all.



In a journal. In your mind.

In a letter. Or in a document on your computer.

Let words flow. See what wants to come out.

Thoughts. Feelings.

Questions. Answers.

Or memories and gratitude you’d like to share with someone you know.



Feel your feet on the ground.

On the carpet. Hardwood floor.

Dirt or grass or concrete found outside.

Feel the texture.

Feel the connection.

Here for you in this moment.



Do something that makes YOU smile.

Set a photo of you love as your laptop background.

Watch the chipmunks play outside.

Take your dog for a walk or snuggle inside.

Google pictures of baby animals.

Throw confetti in the air.

Anything that makes you smile.

A true and genuine smile.



To a therapist. To a friend.

To the angels. To the birds.

Share with whoever you feel in your heart you’d like to share.

Talk about what’s in your heart.

Or what you see outside.

Or maybe even some memories

That bring tears of gratitude or delight.

Or even that are just plain funny

And make you both downright laugh out loud.



A memory that feels warm and gooey and fills you with gratitude and makes you feel abundant.

What did you think of this list? Are there any you already practice?

Which one was your favorite?

Leave a comment below and let me know — I’d love to hear!

And you never know who else may benefit from what you have within your heart to share.

Much love to you, now and always,


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Brave Soul

The girl in the coffee shop.

She sits, on a small bench with a little patch of sunshine shining through.

She sits with her journal, with her cup of Chai — and she reflects.

Thinking about her life, her loss, pondering all the moments gone by. Wondering about her future, wondering what it will be, what it will bring — more fearful now than ever before. But she doesn’t know this. She just sips her tea, and she writes what she’s grateful for.


She always focuses on the light, you see. Always focused on bringing in positivity, harmony — grace. She’s convinced it can always be found, and she finds little bits of it everywhere.

In fact, it is one of her strengths.


It’s one of the things others admire about her. But what she doesn’t yet know, is it is in part, a challenge, that one day she’ll overcome.


To face her fears, her sorrow and tears — the despair so heavy and alone.


And that she’ll rise again, her face in the sun. One day walking back into that very same coffee shop, this time ordering water instead of tea, and a healthy bar instead of the chocolate scotcharoo.


A girl brave with new understanding.

A girl with new tenderness she never could have foreseen.

And this tenderness gives her strength.

This tenderness gives her fire.


From this tenderness a new life is born. One that honors her every need.

And with this her life expands, into a beautiful expression of grace — filled with joy, and laughter … and the smiles of dreams coming true.


There’s nothing like the feeling of a dream coming true.

And this girl, yes this girl — she lives for it.


The feeling of accomplishment, the knowing she’s helped.

It puts a smile on her face and helps her relax with ease — or she jumps up with a scream and a shout, thrilled by the very experience of being alive.


She is worthy. She doesn’t always see it.

But just wait — you’ll see her shine.


And her shining will set the world aglow — and in it you’ll find, you know,

That you’re just a masterpiece in shining also, who out of fear or shame is hidden…


And you’ll find the courage, little by little, to take off your mask and reveal —

The angel that lives inside

To spread her wings and fly


Leaving raindrops of love and rose petals of joy.

Blessing every soul you meet.


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Brave Soul

You can do anything.

My wishes for you today — boldness, confidence, grace.

My darling canaries~

You can do anything.

And your life is divinely blessed, like a sunflower reaching up to allow the sunlight to grace her face.

You can do anything. And all that you desire to create and be is for a reason.

When you write, you let freedom flow through your fingertips. And that freedom has the power to open Heaven’s door.

One could even say that that IS Heaven’s door.

As you create from the heart, you allow a wellspring of knowledge to bubble up to the surface…sometimes with insights and information you didn’t even realize you had within you.

What a treasure it is to be one with the inspired ideas and creations that come to you —

You can do anything that you put your mind to…

Or perhaps I should say, put your heart to. 🙂

Because your heart is one of the most wondrous creators there is.

Allow yourself to be in the wondrous flow of whatever it is you are creating.

Whether is it a simple journal prompt, or a bit of poetry that comes to you as you’re sitting outside, gazing across your backyard…

THIS is the infinite space through which creativity is born.

And all human beings are creative.

How could we not be?

We were created by a creator and we were destined to create.

As part of Creation, we too create, with every thought and deed, word and breath.

The breath is what gives wings to our dreams and lets our hopes soar high up in the sky — like a bluebird, or a dove…or an eagle soaring with the tops of the trees.

What type of bird do you feel like today?

What energy resonates with you the most?

Now imagine that you are this bird, about to tackle the events of your day…

How would this bird respond?

Who would she be? What would she do?

What energy do you feel as you see her flying in your mind’s eye?

You have this same freedom within you, and it’s singing–

I can do anything!

And I’d love to hear in the comments below, what helps your heart feel like singing?

How did you like the bird visualization exercise? What did you find or discover imagining yourself as a bird?

Sending you much love & many blessings always,


You can do anything

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A Simple Trick to Calm Anxiety & Help You Return to Center

Thank you so much for all of the beautiful feedback about my first video!

I thought I’d go ahead and share here as well so that more people can find it if need be. 🙂

In the video I talk about how our energy can tend to feel scattered, and how tuning into notice that, and then following the simple tip or trick I share, restore your sense of balance and calm so that you can feel what needs to happen next. That isn’t not about pushing the anxiety down, but about returning to a place where you can sense your inner guidance or wisdom for what you truly need.

The main points:

  • The experience of being frazzled vs. being filled with peace
  • The purpose of returning to center and restoring a sense of calm in order to receive guidance for what you need next
  • And, of course, the trick to physically help your body calm itself to return to a state of equilibrium, balance, and calm.

I hope you enjoy the video, and you can watch it by clicking the link below!

VIDEO: A Simple Trick to Calm Anxiety & Help You Return to Center

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Please also leave a comment and let me know what helped you the most… or any aha’s or insights of your own that came from watching the video!

Sending you much love, and many blessings always,



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Writing as Healing

A Simple Grief Journal.

The Story.

While my dad was dying, I journaled all the time. I had a special notebook where I’d write down any thoughts, feelings, prayers, or anything that came to mind in the moments when I sat down to write.

It was a sacred practice. Morning, noon, night–whenever the need struck, the journal was there, and it helped to see me through one of the most challenging times in my life.

But when he died, all of that changed. Suddenly, I felt too overwhelmed to write…

I didn’t know where to start.

There were so many thoughts and feelings, not to mention the haze of shock and shame of my emotions that swirled through my being. I felt that I was supposed to somehow find a way to get on with my life–like the world expected me to just move on as if nothing had happened. But how could I? My life had been changed forever.

I tried going to grief support groups, and to a couple different therapists. But none of it seemed to help. In fact, it had the opposite effect. The callous or even simply aloof statements and reactions of others seemed to do nothing but throw salt in my wide open, gaping, and freshly torn wounds.

So in a way, it felt as if I was left to find my way through this on my own…

And I did.

And this what I’m here to share with you.

A simple grief journal that can be a place to help you get started.

Because I don’t want you to have to figure it all out on your own. I want you to have an experienced like I always dreamed about…

I want you to feel loved and supported, and held in knowing that your experience is okay.

I want you to know that I understand that while the world moves on, your life has been irrevocably changed.

Years later I developed a writing program with that exact intention in mind, and I’ll share how you can learn all about it at the end of your journal.

But right now, I’d like to start with the basics, and give you a simple place to start.

Let’s cut down on the overwhelm and keep it simple.

For me…

It all started with a journal.

A blank, empty journal I found at a local bookstore.

As a bonus, the leather bound cover had a smell that took me back to memories of being a little girl, watching my dad shine his shoes.

I didn’t have an exact plan for the journal but I knew I wanted to use it for something to honor my dad.

After awhile I started to notice some patterns in my thoughts.

There were three main categories.

So I took my journal and divided it up in to thirds.

{These are the thirds you’ll find in this journal I’ve put together for you.}


The first section was for treasure:

Memories, special moments, things my dad had said, things we’d done together…

All of the treasured things that I never wanted to forget.

Because that’s the thing about grief…more than anything we can be stricken with a fear that we’re forgetting those we love. That we’ll forget a certain way they looked at us, or the way their face would break into a soft smile.

The feel of stroking their hair, or the twinkle in their eyes.

That’s what this section is all about.

So in those moment where you remember something about your loved one, you can take out your journal and write it down right away.

That way, you know you won’t forget.

The act of writing it down will help it to expand and seal it further into your memory, and then you can refer back to it anytime you need a boost or want to reconnect with the memory.

Whatever small details you are able to record will help trigger other aspects of the memory so that it is easier to return to anytime you wish.

Record all your treasure and let it never be forgotten.

Let the stories and memories make handprints on your heart.

Like twinkling lights at twilight…

Allow their glow to light the way for you now, and to help you feel and know how much you’re loved.


The second section was for things I had learned from him.

There were so many things I learned from my dad, and I wanted a place to write them down.

Again, so I wouldn’t forget.

And also as a way to honor him and all of the ways he had changed and shaped and blessed my life.

All of the ways my life was different because I knew him.

All those things that he’d taught me…like memories of sitting on the edge of the bed, learning how to write an outline for a presentation.

How are you different because your loved one lived? Because you knew them?

These are the things to record in this section. Both, to help you remember, as well as to honor and recognize and celebrate their life, and their presence here upon the earth.

This might be things your loved one taught you…concrete skills like riding a bike or writing an outline for your speech at school.

Or it might be deeper things that you learned about yourself, or ways that you are changed because of how they saw you.

Maybe they helped you learn how to believe in yourself. Or maybe you now laugh at certain jokes or find certain things funny, just because they loved them too.

Whatever it is, write them down. And allow your heart to soak up all the richness of how your life is different, how much value, in concrete and beautifully written examples, your loved one brought to your life.

The richness of your life that is made up by the tapestry of the treads of your lives intertwining….

And how you are different, because they lived.

An honoring of your loved one’s presence and all that they are, and the example of their life but also how your life is uniquely touched because your lives were entwined.

Celebrate and appreciate these things and know that the truth and love of them lives on forever.


And finally, the third section was for the things that I wished I could tell him…

All the things I wanted to say or wished we could do together. Things I hadn’t gotten a chance to say or most often, things I came to realize later that I wished I could tell him.

So in any moment you have a thought of, “I wish we could…” or “I wish I could tell him/her…” write it down. No matter how small. It all is significant.

This gives you a chance to express the things you feel in your heart, the love that you still want to share.

It creates a lifeline and helps you to feel the love you wish you could share.

And in doing so–by writing it down–it can feel as if you’ve actually gotten a chance, in some small way, to say what you needed to say.

So there you have it.

A simple DIY grief journal.

And this simple journal that I created myself…

It absolutely changed my life.

And in those first hard months of grief, I believe it saved my life…

It gave me a place to turn and a way to begin sorting through the thoughts. It cut down on the overwhelm, and gave me solace, the peace of mind, that some of those most precious and treasured things were written down.

It even brought a sense of sunshine and smiles–laughter even, for the memories we’d shared.

And I hope that is what it does for you too.

You can download a FREE copy of your very own, right here: The Heart-Mending Wordsmith Mini Journal

When you get to the end, will you let me know what helped you the most?

I’d also like to invite you to join my new Facebook Group — By the Light of the Moon: Grief Support Group.

Inside I’ll be sharing tips for self-care, more journaling and coaching support, live videos, resources for determining your own grief style so you can learn how to support yourself best, and more!

If you’d like to be notified when the group is open, please send me an email here. And put the word Facebook in the subject line.

I so look forward to having you join us!

Much love and many blessings, always,



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