Or ever experienced it?
A sense of shock that feels like a haze you just can’t find a way through.
An invisible curtain seems to appear in front of you when you talk with others.
A crying spell so intense that you feel you’ve never cried so hard in your whole life, all the while feeling your throat tighten as if you’re literally about to be sick.
If you have lost someone close to you, you can probably see yourself in at least one of these experiences…or so many more that are unique to you.
Grief sucks. Whether you’ve been on its roller coaster ride for less than a year or more than five, I’m glad you’re here. I know the road; it has been eight years since I lost my dad and I’ve experienced several other significant losses since then as well.
Grief is like walking along a distant island, at night, pitch black, without any power…and nothing to guide you but the moon and the stars, and the distant crashing of waves along the shore…
Learning to listen closely so you don’t fall off the edge of the cliff.
Right now it feels impossible. But I promise you…with your senses heightened, and your openness and willingness to explore, to see what your heart wants to share…
You will become stronger.
You will become braver…even though, whether you realize it or not, you absolutely already ARE.
You are already so much more brave than a million souls can recognize.
Your light, the light that shines within you in this distant darkness is stronger than any obstacle this darkness can throw at you.
So that’s why I want to share my story with you.
As part of a writing course for educators I took a few years ago, our final project was to share (as in, read aloud, in front of a room full of people) a final draft of a narrative written on a topic of our choice. I felt a pull to write mine about my dad. The creative process provided me refuge. Emotions erupting like lava from a volcano combined with the action of writing turned out to have serious healing power.
On the last day of class, as I read my narrative aloud, I saw the way my words stirred emotion in each of my classmates, several of them with tears filling and falling from their eyes.
I felt empowered to have created something that could authentically express a sliver of my experience. And in the end, I realized that it didn’t matter if anyone ever read what I’d written not, that going through the writing process had been just for me.
This inspired me to put together some reflections and activities from my writing practice to share with you.
And it is part of a course I designed called The Heart-Mending Wordsmith.
Imagine what it would be like to be part of an online community where you have the freedom to express yourself with people who can empathize.
How would it feel to create something meaningful that represents the significance of your experience?
That’s what we do in The Heart-Mending Wordsmith, an 8-week guided writing experience. Consider it an invitation to do a little writing just for you.
Here’s the rundown:
The lesson for each week includes:
- A heartfelt writing quotation,
- a little bit about my story,
- a prompt with writing ideas to play around with as much or as little as you like,
- and questions for reflection that will help you find insight.
All of the writing experiences fit together to help you create a narrative about your loved one. Plus, you’ll have the opportunity to share your experiences and get support in a private Facebook group along the way.
Whether you just want something uplifting to read once a week, want to jot down a few of your thoughts, or want to dive all the way in and create a masterpiece, I’d love to walk with you, encourage you with compassion, and guide you in a series of writing experiences that will help bring creativity, healing, and inspiration to your journey.
I’d love to have you along for the adventure!
Much love and many blessings to you,